vf6cruiser
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Q: Have I made a huge mistake?
A: Getting a puppy is an enormous life change and it's totally normal to feel regret. The first few weeks are so, so hard. Take it day by day. As your puppy develops, your feelings will follow suit.
Q: Am I just not a dog person? I'm not enjoying this puppy...
A: You are just not a puppy person. Puppies cause long-term stress, sleep deprivation, and exhaustion. Some people enjoy the process, but most people don't and THAT'S OK.
Q: He never cuddles with me. Does my puppy dislike me?
A: Cuddling isn't synonymous with love. Some dogs just don't cuddle, some start cuddling once they have matured. Either way, your puppy loves you.
Q: Will I ever love this dog? Am I a horrible person for not liking the puppy even though I wanted one so badly?
A: Honestly, you probably already love the puppy, but you're such an anxious mess that those warm feelings have been repressed. Some people fall in love right away, but for others, a real bond can take time to develop. You are not a horrible person. Be kind to yourself and give it time.
Q: I feel like we are behind on training... Am I doing a good job?
A: YES. You are providing a warm home and fulfilling your puppy's needs. Try not to compare your puppy's progress with other puppies. You are doing enough.
Q: Will I ever get my life back?
A: No and yes. Life will never be the same... because you will have a dog! Eventually you will adjust to a new normal, and your dog will be so worth it.
Q: Will my puppy ever settle down?
A: Yes! It might take 5 months, it might take 1 year. But he/she will mature... and one day you'll notice that your pup isn't getting into so much trouble anymore and you don't have to eagle-eye them all the time. Each puppy matures differently, but you WILL get there.
Q: Will we survive adolescence?
A: Yes... it's definitely challenging, but in a different way from the baby phase. Even the completely bonkers teenagers still know way more than they did when they were babies! They have also had time to build a stronger relationship with you. Plus, the tough part, early adolescence, only lasts from ~7 to 10 months of age. You can do it!
- from a former puppy blues sufferer -
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