@christian1488 Let them out where? To the backyard I’m assuming?
It’s a shame your parents aren’t interested in training these dogs properly. It shouldn’t be your responsibility if it’s their dogs. But if you do decide to work on it, they need to be taught to sit before any door opens, and that if they lunge/run/get up before you say they can go, the door will close & they don’t get to go out.
My dog wasn’t that bad, but he certainly loved to bolt through doors if he was super hyped up or wanted to run away. Occasionally he would face palm the door/glass from rushing too quickly. Every single time we go to leave the front door, he MUST sit (using treats is how you build this behaviour up). I go grab the doorknob, if he stands up, I close it and make him sit again. I slightly open the door, if he stands up I shut the door and make him sit again. Ultimately you should build up to your dog being able to sit with the door wide open and him not going through until you tell him “Go!”. If he goes before you say he can, you bring him back inside and start the process again. Usually this is something dogs pick up very quickly. From now on, never open the door if they’re lunging at it so they can unlearn that “lunging at the door = get to go outside quicker”. Now, I can even walk outside and my dog will wait indoors for me to tell him he can also walk calmly outside. Way less anxiety-inducing
But you mentioned you are anxious and shaking because of these dogs, which is a pretty severe toll on your well-being. Once again, I ultimately think your parents should be training these dogs. Is there any way to convince them (e.g. that canine behaviourists do not consider that behaviour normal, productive or obedient & can sometimes end up in dogs running away suddenly without warning because they believe they can lunge to leave any entry/exit, lower impulse control and increased reactivity)?
If not, can you give them an ultimatum? If they don’t train their dogs enough that they don’t give you literal anxiety, you simply will not be the one to let them out anymore? And that your brother isn’t helping enough considering that you are not an adult like they are and are not fully equipped to train and handle 3 dogs.