lovehopegirl
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Hello everyone,
Sorry I tried posting this on /r/dogs but it was removed because I'm new and I just really need help ... idk if this is the right place to ask and I know these aren't the kinds of posts people tend to look kindly on but here it goes: my ex and I got a dog together almost 9 years ago. 2 years ago we split up and we were gonna care for her together (having her live with either of us for 1-2 months at a time). But he quickly abandoned her and so it's just me. Except I couldn't afford a big place with a garden (he has a massive house with an even more massive garden), so my dog and I had to move into an apartment in the city (mind you it's a small city with lots of green and parks, not some kind of major capital, but still ... read on).
Before, we lived in the countryside and I always felt she was a happy dog. Now, I don't have (my own) garden (there is a shared one which I use 1-2 times a day to let her out in between walks), but I walk her a few times a day and we do at least one long walk (1 hour) every day.
But over the last 1.5 years, she's grown increasingly fearful and neurotic. She's scared of so many sounds (motorcycles, large cars, banging sounds from construction work, things get thrown over by wind, ...) making her not enjoy a vast majority of the walks we go on; when people come over she whines the *entire time* (no matter how many hours I walked her before) for their attention (to the point that even my most patient visitors are starting to find it annoying and mind you, I invite someone over maybe like once a month at the most); she's started having bouts of diarrhea at night inside the apartment (it happened twice now in 1.5 months and it's something that never happened in all the years prior which makes me think it's stress-related cause the vet couldn't find anything), ...
All in all, it's just .. honestly, it's just depressing. I feel that my happy dog isn't happy anymore, she seems stressed on every walk, with every visit. I can't afford a house with a big garden, and I myself am growing increasingly frustrated and impatient. I just don't know what to do.
I know people tend to judge people for rehoming their dogs - I think even I sometimes do. But what if it would be truly better for her to be with someone who can better help her manage her anxieties, someone who has the space for her to run around like she used to? Am I a bad person for thinking this?
Any advice would be IMMENSELY appreciated.
Sorry I tried posting this on /r/dogs but it was removed because I'm new and I just really need help ... idk if this is the right place to ask and I know these aren't the kinds of posts people tend to look kindly on but here it goes: my ex and I got a dog together almost 9 years ago. 2 years ago we split up and we were gonna care for her together (having her live with either of us for 1-2 months at a time). But he quickly abandoned her and so it's just me. Except I couldn't afford a big place with a garden (he has a massive house with an even more massive garden), so my dog and I had to move into an apartment in the city (mind you it's a small city with lots of green and parks, not some kind of major capital, but still ... read on).
Before, we lived in the countryside and I always felt she was a happy dog. Now, I don't have (my own) garden (there is a shared one which I use 1-2 times a day to let her out in between walks), but I walk her a few times a day and we do at least one long walk (1 hour) every day.
But over the last 1.5 years, she's grown increasingly fearful and neurotic. She's scared of so many sounds (motorcycles, large cars, banging sounds from construction work, things get thrown over by wind, ...) making her not enjoy a vast majority of the walks we go on; when people come over she whines the *entire time* (no matter how many hours I walked her before) for their attention (to the point that even my most patient visitors are starting to find it annoying and mind you, I invite someone over maybe like once a month at the most); she's started having bouts of diarrhea at night inside the apartment (it happened twice now in 1.5 months and it's something that never happened in all the years prior which makes me think it's stress-related cause the vet couldn't find anything), ...
All in all, it's just .. honestly, it's just depressing. I feel that my happy dog isn't happy anymore, she seems stressed on every walk, with every visit. I can't afford a house with a big garden, and I myself am growing increasingly frustrated and impatient. I just don't know what to do.
I know people tend to judge people for rehoming their dogs - I think even I sometimes do. But what if it would be truly better for her to be with someone who can better help her manage her anxieties, someone who has the space for her to run around like she used to? Am I a bad person for thinking this?
Any advice would be IMMENSELY appreciated.