My husband and I have a vacation booked in two weeks; three weeks visiting my family abroad. I don’t know what I was thinking. My mother in law was our previous go to dog sitter, but over the last year our reactive dog has also become reactive to my MIL’s dog, who he has previously stayed with for four weeks at a time. I haven’t seen my family for two years, and the boarding plans we were hoping for fell through.
(We previously boarded our pups at a regular boarding facility, but since Dog 1 started showing reactivity towards other dogs, I don’t feel comfortable with leaving him somewhere where they aren’t equipped to deal with reactive dogs specifically. Especially for three weeks, I feel like that’s setting him up to fail, and putting other people’s pets in danger.)
I don’t think I’ll be able to arrange something in the next two weeks. It’s looking more and more like we’ll have to cancel our tickets (family guilt) or I’ll have to go without my husband (terrible wifely guilt as boarding the dogs was my responsibility). Additionally, I’ve always preferred a dig sitter over boarding, and I have immense guilt leaving him at a facility anyway.
My family says I let my life revolve around the dog. My husband is stressed and frustrated that we haven’t had a vacation for years. But what are we, with our reactive digs, supposed to do?
What do you guys do? Are we destined to never have vacations? I’ve cried a lot over this and now I’m paralyzed with guilt, overwhelm and fear. This is my life.
EDIT: holy moly I didn’t expect this many comments but really appreciate it! Will go through and respond later but right now am going to trawl Rover and see if there’s anyone who fits the bill. I didn’t want to put him on anyone but you guys are right—there might be people who are trained or experienced with reactive dogs. Seeing as I was putting aside money for this reason I have a much higher budget than I previously did when I looked at Rover. (I was looking at a board and train place that work with reactive dogs. However there was a miscommunication and they can’t do our dates. While this would have only been boarding, I’m torn about them and their “rehab program” in general because I’m not sure how I feel about their use of e-collars.)
What worries me is we used to look for people with dogs, because the pup (4.5 years old) was previously only reactive to male strangers and having dog playmates greatly reduced the chance of reactivity. He’s so far only been reactive with a few dogs but I’m not sure now whether to risk someone with a dog or not. I think the main thing is to be upfront about all his issues so that the sitters themselves can decide what they are and aren’t equipped to deal with.
thanks again for all your responses and will let you know how it goes! You’ve given me hope!
(We previously boarded our pups at a regular boarding facility, but since Dog 1 started showing reactivity towards other dogs, I don’t feel comfortable with leaving him somewhere where they aren’t equipped to deal with reactive dogs specifically. Especially for three weeks, I feel like that’s setting him up to fail, and putting other people’s pets in danger.)
I don’t think I’ll be able to arrange something in the next two weeks. It’s looking more and more like we’ll have to cancel our tickets (family guilt) or I’ll have to go without my husband (terrible wifely guilt as boarding the dogs was my responsibility). Additionally, I’ve always preferred a dig sitter over boarding, and I have immense guilt leaving him at a facility anyway.
My family says I let my life revolve around the dog. My husband is stressed and frustrated that we haven’t had a vacation for years. But what are we, with our reactive digs, supposed to do?
What do you guys do? Are we destined to never have vacations? I’ve cried a lot over this and now I’m paralyzed with guilt, overwhelm and fear. This is my life.
EDIT: holy moly I didn’t expect this many comments but really appreciate it! Will go through and respond later but right now am going to trawl Rover and see if there’s anyone who fits the bill. I didn’t want to put him on anyone but you guys are right—there might be people who are trained or experienced with reactive dogs. Seeing as I was putting aside money for this reason I have a much higher budget than I previously did when I looked at Rover. (I was looking at a board and train place that work with reactive dogs. However there was a miscommunication and they can’t do our dates. While this would have only been boarding, I’m torn about them and their “rehab program” in general because I’m not sure how I feel about their use of e-collars.)
What worries me is we used to look for people with dogs, because the pup (4.5 years old) was previously only reactive to male strangers and having dog playmates greatly reduced the chance of reactivity. He’s so far only been reactive with a few dogs but I’m not sure now whether to risk someone with a dog or not. I think the main thing is to be upfront about all his issues so that the sitters themselves can decide what they are and aren’t equipped to deal with.
thanks again for all your responses and will let you know how it goes! You’ve given me hope!