@melouise First of all, this is totally normal and most of us have been through the same thing with our pups! It is VERY overwhelming and can feel impossible at first. I’m raising my puppy by myself, too. I did so much research ahead of time but nothing could’ve prepared me for the reality of how hard it can be. He’s 5 months old now, and things are SO much easier than when he came home at 10 weeks.
I’m sorry this comment is about to be so long but I was in your position a few months ago and wish I’d had this advice!
-Know that the first 2-3 weeks are the absolute hardest. Things just get easier and easier from there. But DAMN those first few weeks were hard. Your whole life gets turned upside down! There’s so much change! For your puppy, too! He’s still getting used to everything. Highly recommend the article “Kidnapped From Planet Dog” by Kathy Callahan.
-Hire a sitter if you are able to. I have a rotation of friends/family that I’ll pay $20 to watch my puppy while I run errands. Everyone loves playing with a sweet puppy in small doses, so they’re all happy to do it. Leaving my puppy alone for longer than he was comfortable with made his “separation anxiety” worse, so it’s been essential for me to have sitters I can turn to. Before I started hiring sitters I was literally a prisoner in my own home.
-I really recommend treating it as separation anxiety (even tho it’s not- it’s totally normal for a puppy to be scared of being alone at that age). With human phobias, we do exposure therapy that involves very gradual exposure to the scary thing. You wouldn’t want to move too quickly and risk traumatizing the person with the phobia- it would set their progress back. Separation anxiety should be treated the same way- very gradual exposure to being left alone, and only in increments that your dog feels comfortable with. That’s why having a sitter is so important! I highly recommend reading up on Julie Naismith’s methods of separation anxiety training, they’re SO effective.
You got this!!! I promise this time goes quickly and things will get easier sooner than you think!
I’m sorry this comment is about to be so long but I was in your position a few months ago and wish I’d had this advice!
-Know that the first 2-3 weeks are the absolute hardest. Things just get easier and easier from there. But DAMN those first few weeks were hard. Your whole life gets turned upside down! There’s so much change! For your puppy, too! He’s still getting used to everything. Highly recommend the article “Kidnapped From Planet Dog” by Kathy Callahan.
-Hire a sitter if you are able to. I have a rotation of friends/family that I’ll pay $20 to watch my puppy while I run errands. Everyone loves playing with a sweet puppy in small doses, so they’re all happy to do it. Leaving my puppy alone for longer than he was comfortable with made his “separation anxiety” worse, so it’s been essential for me to have sitters I can turn to. Before I started hiring sitters I was literally a prisoner in my own home.
-I really recommend treating it as separation anxiety (even tho it’s not- it’s totally normal for a puppy to be scared of being alone at that age). With human phobias, we do exposure therapy that involves very gradual exposure to the scary thing. You wouldn’t want to move too quickly and risk traumatizing the person with the phobia- it would set their progress back. Separation anxiety should be treated the same way- very gradual exposure to being left alone, and only in increments that your dog feels comfortable with. That’s why having a sitter is so important! I highly recommend reading up on Julie Naismith’s methods of separation anxiety training, they’re SO effective.
You got this!!! I promise this time goes quickly and things will get easier sooner than you think!