Recently, my boyfriend’s friend came over to hang out with us, and a couple of secs later my BF announced to not get spooked since his friend also brought over his dog. This dog is a cutie, black, some kind of lab mix breed big dog which happens to be very active as well. I have been scared of dogs my whole life. I grew up in a country where stray dogs were not really friendly, also as a child I had an incident where an animal bit me and ever since I have developed this phobia. Whenever I see a happy dog coming my way my heart just starts racing to the point where I start feeling dizzy. And if the dog owner does not stop their dog coming towards me I legit start having a panic attack.
So his friends dog got really excited to see me, kept wanting to sniff me and kinda jump in my lap and lick. I really wish I could let this happen but my anxiety levels were off the roof as my hands got lill shaky. The dog did get settle from time to time and I gave that good guy scratches.
Problem is my bf of six months keeps bringing it up that he wants us to get a dog, honestly one of the reason i started dating him was that he dont own any pets.
He knows about my fear n all, but thinks that somehow my fear will just go away if he tells me that dog is not going to bite me. As much as I want a pet dog i know i cant have one right now. Last night I felt really embarased when I acted scared n jumpy after dog walked in the door.
I was just chilling on sofa and suddenly I ran upstairs because a dog was close and I was not ready for it. I felt terrible. But also a lill sad as I felt my bf should have been considerate of this or should have asked his friend not to bring his dog over before checking with us. I did run upstairs and wanted to cry out loud but instead maintained my composure and played with the dog best way I can. I am sure that dog must be thinking why she is so weird
I just dont feel ready enough for a dog yet, my bf really wants one, trying to find ways to desensitize myself and to overcome my fear. Any advice? I am so tired of feeling this way,
Thank you!!!
P.S: I moved into my bf’s house recently, I am also a bit of a neat freak, I feel shedding will bother me, as its 3am rn and all I can think about is dog’s hair all over living room rug, sofa n floors.
So his friends dog got really excited to see me, kept wanting to sniff me and kinda jump in my lap and lick. I really wish I could let this happen but my anxiety levels were off the roof as my hands got lill shaky. The dog did get settle from time to time and I gave that good guy scratches.
Problem is my bf of six months keeps bringing it up that he wants us to get a dog, honestly one of the reason i started dating him was that he dont own any pets.
He knows about my fear n all, but thinks that somehow my fear will just go away if he tells me that dog is not going to bite me. As much as I want a pet dog i know i cant have one right now. Last night I felt really embarased when I acted scared n jumpy after dog walked in the door.
I was just chilling on sofa and suddenly I ran upstairs because a dog was close and I was not ready for it. I felt terrible. But also a lill sad as I felt my bf should have been considerate of this or should have asked his friend not to bring his dog over before checking with us. I did run upstairs and wanted to cry out loud but instead maintained my composure and played with the dog best way I can. I am sure that dog must be thinking why she is so weird
I just dont feel ready enough for a dog yet, my bf really wants one, trying to find ways to desensitize myself and to overcome my fear. Any advice? I am so tired of feeling this way,
Thank you!!!
P.S: I moved into my bf’s house recently, I am also a bit of a neat freak, I feel shedding will bother me, as its 3am rn and all I can think about is dog’s hair all over living room rug, sofa n floors.