laylamendiola
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After several years of thought and consideration, my family (DH and 2 girls 19 & 7) and I made the decision to adopt a puppy. This December we adopted a 12wo female micro-goldendoodle.
I did a lot of research about dog training and even though I shared and consistently modeled the education, my family failed to absorb. This led to a lot of made up commands, frustration when she doesn’t listen and anxiety/confusion w/ the puppy.
At 16 weeks I enrolled her in 3-wk day training hoping that consistent exposure to the correct commands and reward method would help proof training. Unfortunately, the trainer (without my knowledge at that time) put a prong collar on her within 2 days into 15 days of training. I was told that she was being ‘difficult’. But that’s a whole other post…
Any ways, training is over, and once again my family is VERY inconsistent with command’s & expectations. I have become the only one the dog listens to which also means now she is no longer a family dog, but now just MY dog.
This dynamic in the relationships increases anxiety and confusion in my pup, and resentment w/ me because my family really sucks at this, and they (& the pro-trainer) are the problem with her training progress.
Although I love our puppy, I can not do this alone and don’t want to have her in an environment where she can’t trust everyone she lives with. Should I consider Re-homing her? This is always a tough thought b/c ppl rush to judgement & say, “A dog is a lifelong commitment and you should have considered that, blah, blah, blah…” And we absolutely did, even right down to deciding the breed, temperament, size, sex, allergies etc. But here we are. It’s unfair to my pup to have this large of a dynamic of leadership & responsibility in the home.
Is this cause for Re-homing?
I did a lot of research about dog training and even though I shared and consistently modeled the education, my family failed to absorb. This led to a lot of made up commands, frustration when she doesn’t listen and anxiety/confusion w/ the puppy.
At 16 weeks I enrolled her in 3-wk day training hoping that consistent exposure to the correct commands and reward method would help proof training. Unfortunately, the trainer (without my knowledge at that time) put a prong collar on her within 2 days into 15 days of training. I was told that she was being ‘difficult’. But that’s a whole other post…
Any ways, training is over, and once again my family is VERY inconsistent with command’s & expectations. I have become the only one the dog listens to which also means now she is no longer a family dog, but now just MY dog.
This dynamic in the relationships increases anxiety and confusion in my pup, and resentment w/ me because my family really sucks at this, and they (& the pro-trainer) are the problem with her training progress.
Although I love our puppy, I can not do this alone and don’t want to have her in an environment where she can’t trust everyone she lives with. Should I consider Re-homing her? This is always a tough thought b/c ppl rush to judgement & say, “A dog is a lifelong commitment and you should have considered that, blah, blah, blah…” And we absolutely did, even right down to deciding the breed, temperament, size, sex, allergies etc. But here we are. It’s unfair to my pup to have this large of a dynamic of leadership & responsibility in the home.
Is this cause for Re-homing?