Hi guys, I have a 12 year old heeler with lung cancer and stage 2 kidney disease, prognosis is three months.My dog has traveled the whole country with me for 12 years he is my world. We are reaching his end stages of life.All roommate situations have gone fine throughout his life. He's lived with puppies growing up like German shepherds, labs, shitzus, and pit bulls.My newest roommate is someone from my friend group but we aren't super close she moved in and decided she wanted to get a puppy with her boyfriend she's been dating for two weeks. I'm against it because of what Mulder is currently going through they say they'll split time between her and boyfriend's house. They don't, basically boyfriend and puppy move in and boyfriend says he can't have dogs at his place so he needs to be here to help her with the puppy.
I've explained to everyone Mulder is a heeler. He will snap if the puppy won't get out of his face I told them all of his heeler behaviors before moving in. Usually they get along fine but sometimes over toys Mulder will get possessive and then they give the puppy bones and chews multiple times a day and of course Mulder wants those so he does the stare and lip twitching.The roommates have started to yell at him and are always talking to him in aggressive tones. So the other day Mulder nipped at the roommate. I told her you can't always be negative with Mulder you need to create a positive relationship with him and seriously .... stop being mean to my dog I warned you of all of this before you moved into this house.
Now she says she doesn't want them to share the same space. I work 12 hour shifts and I don't want my senior dog living his last months locked in my room all the time. He's always had free roam of anywhere we have lived. She also babysits kids and often brings them to our house so she can still be around her boyfriend while working and my heeler can't be around kids.
My roommates keep saying you're the one with the aggressive dog and are responsible for controlling him and I'm like you can babysit the kids at the house you're supposed to be babysitting at. You moved into the house we were already renting and I warned you all this about my dog. So you're hindering my dogs life by introducing all this to a house that has been his home. I said the dogs need to be together and monitored because that's how they'll become desensitized to one another that keeping them apart is only going to make it worse.
She has also decided to take up all the water bowls (which belong to me) so they can limit how much the puppy drinks so he'll stop peeing everywhere in the house and my dog having stage 2 kidney issues and is on a steroid for the cancer needs to drink as much a possible.
I'm looking for advice on the situation in regards to what I should say to the roommate 1) about he being mean to my dog 2) about relieving the tension between the puppy and my dog should I be pushing for them to spend time together 3) how to relieve tension between me and the roommate cause right now I'm pissed.
Also now the other roommate wants to get a cat. I've said that my dog will try to attack the cat but they're like we all have a right to get a pet. We live in a very small house in Hawaii (that's why I have roommates rent here is extremely high). I have never had this issues and mulder has lived with roommates and other dogs his entire life. They want them separated because they are afraid when mulder stares and lip twitches at the puppy and I've tried to explain that is him communication for the puppy to get out of his face and is a total normal thing for a cattle dog to do. She also says she doesn't want them together anymore because she doesn't want the golden retriever puppy to start acting like Mulder.... I said your golden retriever is going to continue to be a golden he isn't going to become an Australian cattle dog...
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Updates:
The third roommate is getting a cat brought it to the house today which adds way more stress to the situation. I called the landlord and she said ABSOLUTELY NOT this place is no pets. I was the only one at move in with an ESA and I'd had him for 12 years. She said she didn't even tell the owner about the puppy brought in and there is no way we are bringing in three animals.
I told her I was sorry and I'm trying to keep the tension low. I begged my roommate to wait on the cat until Mulder has passed she refuses. I said he will be aggressive toward the cat I've warned you of this like you knew 9 months ago when you first moved in and when we were looking for new roommates we couldn't get roommates with cats. She blew up and said that my dog is an aggressive animal and him having cancer is not her problem. That everyone living in the house has a right to own a pet. I've tried to explain that the house is no pets. We have just pushed our landlord 3 x with 3 ESAs now. She said they can't do anything about that and I said that they can not about ESAs but we are month to month now that our long lease ended and they do have the right to give us a notice and say it's not working out for them. The landlord is on my side and said I'm head of household on this but the roommates say I have no right to say no.
All the sudden they are saying Mulder isn't safe, that they're scared of him, his bark is annoying. He has nipped the heels of some guy visitors and she even went as far to say that if they reported that he could be put down. I do feel bad, no roommates have ever disliked or been mean to my dog and he's had roommates and other dogs with him his entire life. I'm truly sorry if they do find him annoying and aggressive. I don't think they're actually afraid of him or anything but they may be using that to try to get him out of the house.
The landlord has called a meeting for all of us. I am close with the landlord and really respect her and am sorry that these issues are happening. I'm also 30 and my roommates are 22, 25, and 23. I haven't told her anything about the drama with the roommate with the puppy or the children coming over or her boyfriend living here. I'm trying to keep things as peaceful as possible. The roommates are saying none of the animals should share space and they want then on rotated time in the common area like... what the f*ck is going on...This whole thing is completely baffling to me.
Then there is the one sweet and innocent roommate staying totally out of all of it. This is the most beautiful spot I've had in Hawaii and the rent is well below what they should be asking. It really sucks that we might lose this place I have never been asked to leave a living situation or felt like a bad tenant and never felt that my dog was a huge nuisance to the household. Maybe they just see him as this annoying old dog and they've got this puppy and kitten that are much cuter and more cuddly but it sucks to know they find him so annoying.
I've explained to everyone Mulder is a heeler. He will snap if the puppy won't get out of his face I told them all of his heeler behaviors before moving in. Usually they get along fine but sometimes over toys Mulder will get possessive and then they give the puppy bones and chews multiple times a day and of course Mulder wants those so he does the stare and lip twitching.The roommates have started to yell at him and are always talking to him in aggressive tones. So the other day Mulder nipped at the roommate. I told her you can't always be negative with Mulder you need to create a positive relationship with him and seriously .... stop being mean to my dog I warned you of all of this before you moved into this house.
Now she says she doesn't want them to share the same space. I work 12 hour shifts and I don't want my senior dog living his last months locked in my room all the time. He's always had free roam of anywhere we have lived. She also babysits kids and often brings them to our house so she can still be around her boyfriend while working and my heeler can't be around kids.
My roommates keep saying you're the one with the aggressive dog and are responsible for controlling him and I'm like you can babysit the kids at the house you're supposed to be babysitting at. You moved into the house we were already renting and I warned you all this about my dog. So you're hindering my dogs life by introducing all this to a house that has been his home. I said the dogs need to be together and monitored because that's how they'll become desensitized to one another that keeping them apart is only going to make it worse.
She has also decided to take up all the water bowls (which belong to me) so they can limit how much the puppy drinks so he'll stop peeing everywhere in the house and my dog having stage 2 kidney issues and is on a steroid for the cancer needs to drink as much a possible.
I'm looking for advice on the situation in regards to what I should say to the roommate 1) about he being mean to my dog 2) about relieving the tension between the puppy and my dog should I be pushing for them to spend time together 3) how to relieve tension between me and the roommate cause right now I'm pissed.
Also now the other roommate wants to get a cat. I've said that my dog will try to attack the cat but they're like we all have a right to get a pet. We live in a very small house in Hawaii (that's why I have roommates rent here is extremely high). I have never had this issues and mulder has lived with roommates and other dogs his entire life. They want them separated because they are afraid when mulder stares and lip twitches at the puppy and I've tried to explain that is him communication for the puppy to get out of his face and is a total normal thing for a cattle dog to do. She also says she doesn't want them together anymore because she doesn't want the golden retriever puppy to start acting like Mulder.... I said your golden retriever is going to continue to be a golden he isn't going to become an Australian cattle dog...
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Updates:
The third roommate is getting a cat brought it to the house today which adds way more stress to the situation. I called the landlord and she said ABSOLUTELY NOT this place is no pets. I was the only one at move in with an ESA and I'd had him for 12 years. She said she didn't even tell the owner about the puppy brought in and there is no way we are bringing in three animals.
I told her I was sorry and I'm trying to keep the tension low. I begged my roommate to wait on the cat until Mulder has passed she refuses. I said he will be aggressive toward the cat I've warned you of this like you knew 9 months ago when you first moved in and when we were looking for new roommates we couldn't get roommates with cats. She blew up and said that my dog is an aggressive animal and him having cancer is not her problem. That everyone living in the house has a right to own a pet. I've tried to explain that the house is no pets. We have just pushed our landlord 3 x with 3 ESAs now. She said they can't do anything about that and I said that they can not about ESAs but we are month to month now that our long lease ended and they do have the right to give us a notice and say it's not working out for them. The landlord is on my side and said I'm head of household on this but the roommates say I have no right to say no.
All the sudden they are saying Mulder isn't safe, that they're scared of him, his bark is annoying. He has nipped the heels of some guy visitors and she even went as far to say that if they reported that he could be put down. I do feel bad, no roommates have ever disliked or been mean to my dog and he's had roommates and other dogs with him his entire life. I'm truly sorry if they do find him annoying and aggressive. I don't think they're actually afraid of him or anything but they may be using that to try to get him out of the house.
The landlord has called a meeting for all of us. I am close with the landlord and really respect her and am sorry that these issues are happening. I'm also 30 and my roommates are 22, 25, and 23. I haven't told her anything about the drama with the roommate with the puppy or the children coming over or her boyfriend living here. I'm trying to keep things as peaceful as possible. The roommates are saying none of the animals should share space and they want then on rotated time in the common area like... what the f*ck is going on...This whole thing is completely baffling to me.
Then there is the one sweet and innocent roommate staying totally out of all of it. This is the most beautiful spot I've had in Hawaii and the rent is well below what they should be asking. It really sucks that we might lose this place I have never been asked to leave a living situation or felt like a bad tenant and never felt that my dog was a huge nuisance to the household. Maybe they just see him as this annoying old dog and they've got this puppy and kitten that are much cuter and more cuddly but it sucks to know they find him so annoying.