UPDATE: so I have not had a chance to sit down and talk to her yet today, but she contacted me and said she was going to start putting a bark collar on not only her dog but mine and our roommates puppy…I don’t even know what to say back. I just haven’t responded. Not only is this a total violation I feel, but the dogs don’t bark…not even hers. The only time they are vocal is when they get riled up and are playing with each other outside and even then it’s playful growling (normal dog behavior) but according to her it’s stressing her out. Like what the fuck? This isn’t even a behavior solution! It’s a fucking crutch! Everything is stressing her out, how do I conceivably have a conversation and not stress her out more?
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This might not belong here because it’s help with my roommate as it relates to our dogs. Context: household of 4 humans, 3 dogs (2adults_1puppy) 1 belonging to each human with two humans being married.
All of us are very close friends and have been for years.
So my roommate (X) gets a lot of anxiety about things in general in a way where she gets in your way trying to “help”. This specifically relates to the dogs, if she is around when anyone is doing stuff with their dogs or all the dogs she immediately starts micromanaging both the humans and dogs. She does this as if we are going to fuck something up or not be able to handle simple common situations like feeding, or letting them in and outside to much less simple situations.
My dog was 2 years old when I moved in (2.5 now) and has been trained and is naturally just well behaved, albeit a little sneaky sometimes. X’s dog is about the same age and has ZERO discipline or chill. Her dog wears the pants in the marriage and it’s VERY annoying. I’ve been working with their dog on training/discipline and he’s been doing well and being calmer. So it’s even more frustrating that I’m micromanaged about everything when X is around with the dogs and usually counterproductive.
It has gotten to a point where a lot of times it is totally unenjoyable for me to do things with the dogs if X is home. I don’t know what to do because X is an amazing human with great intentions but very insecure about things so I don’t how to handle this mindfully besides just continuing to grin and bear it.
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This might not belong here because it’s help with my roommate as it relates to our dogs. Context: household of 4 humans, 3 dogs (2adults_1puppy) 1 belonging to each human with two humans being married.
All of us are very close friends and have been for years.
So my roommate (X) gets a lot of anxiety about things in general in a way where she gets in your way trying to “help”. This specifically relates to the dogs, if she is around when anyone is doing stuff with their dogs or all the dogs she immediately starts micromanaging both the humans and dogs. She does this as if we are going to fuck something up or not be able to handle simple common situations like feeding, or letting them in and outside to much less simple situations.
My dog was 2 years old when I moved in (2.5 now) and has been trained and is naturally just well behaved, albeit a little sneaky sometimes. X’s dog is about the same age and has ZERO discipline or chill. Her dog wears the pants in the marriage and it’s VERY annoying. I’ve been working with their dog on training/discipline and he’s been doing well and being calmer. So it’s even more frustrating that I’m micromanaged about everything when X is around with the dogs and usually counterproductive.
It has gotten to a point where a lot of times it is totally unenjoyable for me to do things with the dogs if X is home. I don’t know what to do because X is an amazing human with great intentions but very insecure about things so I don’t how to handle this mindfully besides just continuing to grin and bear it.