laurenalexylee
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TL;DR We are feeling stuck on what to do about our 6 yo, 20 lb herding dog mix with now 6 level 3 bites. Rehoming isn’t an option, we could possibly keep her for up to another year but that no longer feels safe or manageable either, is BE the route?
Please be kind, we already feel like we failed here.
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We adopted our pup when she was 2 yo in March 2020 (were searching to adopt well before pandemic, just happened to be the timing). There weren’t many details about her but they thought she was a rat terrier or chihuahua mix, said she was good with other dogs, though we saw some signs of possible reactivity/fear during our trial adoption, no other issues we could tell. We are first-time dog owners and were originally looking for a dog park/hiking buddy/take anywhere dog, so suffice to say we’ve learned a lot of lessons.
2020: Turned out she was indeed reactive to other dogs. Read a bunch of books and started taking some classes on R+ CC and DS. Because it was the pandemic, no one was coming into our house; anyone she met outside in our yard, she generally warmed up to ok with some cheese. Super smart and easy to train all obedience, but she’d clearly missed out on socialization and anything new she would often consider suspect until proven otherwise.
2021: Pandemic eased and we started having people over more often (before all this we loved hosting parties & guests), started seeing her doing some level 1-2 bite behavior of lunging and nipping new people. Dialed back all social gatherings and put protocols in place for intros. But then we were on a hike (she was on leash) when our friend was getting something out of her backpack on the ground and our dog lunged unprovoked at her face, leaving a puncture that needed a couple stitches. Maybe dog was guarding my husband, since she also guards her crate and high value treats? Started fluoxetine & muzzle training.
2022: Made the pup’s world pretty small to manage her space while doing R+ training, mostly BAT and emotion regulation, admittedly not focused enough on resource guarding and close encounters with people. Progress was slow but happening; friends and family would remark to us how far she’d come since we got her. One bite incident though, which in retrospect can see how all the triggers led up to it and we should have had the muzzle on (another strike against us, she’s so sensitive that we never got her totally comfortable in muzzle, so didn’t use it enough). She snapped at my grandpa’s hand (and broke skin) when he held her head for too long at a family gathering (she was leashed but we weren’t fast enough).
2023: Thought we’d made significant progress and that it would be the year to open her world up more. Quickly fell to pieces with two occasions of level 3 hand bites when new people came over to our house and didn’t perfectly follow our instructions on giving her space. Both quick snaps but had punctures, not just scrapes. We backslid into management as she’s def more wary with new people, and most don’t understand how fast her switch can flip. Vet visits have deteriorated into a nightmare. Also finally did a DNA test and found out she’s mostly cattle dog and border collie.
2024: Bit my husband’s dad, someone she loves and knows well, while he was giving her belly rubs. Level 3 on his hand, pretty bad bruising too. Again a quick snap with no other warning signs and this time she held on a little as he drew his hand away. Also reacted against me when she was in my lap and I leaned in the wrong direction, scraped my hand.
Despite our efforts, we let her practice this behavior too much--it’s gotten worse and less predictable. We just can’t see a situation where we can give her a rich life and the training she needs. We can’t upend our own lives much more than we already have. With these last bites, we no longer trust her even with circle of people she loves. We are probably also going to have a kid in a year, so there’s a true end date when even having her in the house would become untenable.
We reached back out to the rescue we got her from and they said they can’t help us or rehome her because of their insurance policy on bite history. We can tell they’re pretty disappointed in us for not reaching out earlier or doing training with aversives when R+ proved to not be working.
What feels so difficult is that our day-to-day routine with her is manageable and she is otherwise the cutest, snuggliest, wiggly playful girl, has fear but isn’t out for blood, and because she’s only 20 lb she is so much easier to control and “get away” with things that bigger dogs can't. Made it too easy to put off truly dealing with her issues. We need to find a veterinary behaviorist for an assessment, right? It feels so sad that BE is on the table now. I guess we’re just looking for some reassurance that this is ultimately the responsible thing to do now that we’re in this situation. Or open to any other ideas.
Just reading this sub has brought us solace to know we’re not alone, so thank you.
Please be kind, we already feel like we failed here.
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We adopted our pup when she was 2 yo in March 2020 (were searching to adopt well before pandemic, just happened to be the timing). There weren’t many details about her but they thought she was a rat terrier or chihuahua mix, said she was good with other dogs, though we saw some signs of possible reactivity/fear during our trial adoption, no other issues we could tell. We are first-time dog owners and were originally looking for a dog park/hiking buddy/take anywhere dog, so suffice to say we’ve learned a lot of lessons.
2020: Turned out she was indeed reactive to other dogs. Read a bunch of books and started taking some classes on R+ CC and DS. Because it was the pandemic, no one was coming into our house; anyone she met outside in our yard, she generally warmed up to ok with some cheese. Super smart and easy to train all obedience, but she’d clearly missed out on socialization and anything new she would often consider suspect until proven otherwise.
2021: Pandemic eased and we started having people over more often (before all this we loved hosting parties & guests), started seeing her doing some level 1-2 bite behavior of lunging and nipping new people. Dialed back all social gatherings and put protocols in place for intros. But then we were on a hike (she was on leash) when our friend was getting something out of her backpack on the ground and our dog lunged unprovoked at her face, leaving a puncture that needed a couple stitches. Maybe dog was guarding my husband, since she also guards her crate and high value treats? Started fluoxetine & muzzle training.
2022: Made the pup’s world pretty small to manage her space while doing R+ training, mostly BAT and emotion regulation, admittedly not focused enough on resource guarding and close encounters with people. Progress was slow but happening; friends and family would remark to us how far she’d come since we got her. One bite incident though, which in retrospect can see how all the triggers led up to it and we should have had the muzzle on (another strike against us, she’s so sensitive that we never got her totally comfortable in muzzle, so didn’t use it enough). She snapped at my grandpa’s hand (and broke skin) when he held her head for too long at a family gathering (she was leashed but we weren’t fast enough).
2023: Thought we’d made significant progress and that it would be the year to open her world up more. Quickly fell to pieces with two occasions of level 3 hand bites when new people came over to our house and didn’t perfectly follow our instructions on giving her space. Both quick snaps but had punctures, not just scrapes. We backslid into management as she’s def more wary with new people, and most don’t understand how fast her switch can flip. Vet visits have deteriorated into a nightmare. Also finally did a DNA test and found out she’s mostly cattle dog and border collie.
2024: Bit my husband’s dad, someone she loves and knows well, while he was giving her belly rubs. Level 3 on his hand, pretty bad bruising too. Again a quick snap with no other warning signs and this time she held on a little as he drew his hand away. Also reacted against me when she was in my lap and I leaned in the wrong direction, scraped my hand.
Despite our efforts, we let her practice this behavior too much--it’s gotten worse and less predictable. We just can’t see a situation where we can give her a rich life and the training she needs. We can’t upend our own lives much more than we already have. With these last bites, we no longer trust her even with circle of people she loves. We are probably also going to have a kid in a year, so there’s a true end date when even having her in the house would become untenable.
We reached back out to the rescue we got her from and they said they can’t help us or rehome her because of their insurance policy on bite history. We can tell they’re pretty disappointed in us for not reaching out earlier or doing training with aversives when R+ proved to not be working.
What feels so difficult is that our day-to-day routine with her is manageable and she is otherwise the cutest, snuggliest, wiggly playful girl, has fear but isn’t out for blood, and because she’s only 20 lb she is so much easier to control and “get away” with things that bigger dogs can't. Made it too easy to put off truly dealing with her issues. We need to find a veterinary behaviorist for an assessment, right? It feels so sad that BE is on the table now. I guess we’re just looking for some reassurance that this is ultimately the responsible thing to do now that we’re in this situation. Or open to any other ideas.
Just reading this sub has brought us solace to know we’re not alone, so thank you.