nogamenolife
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I have an approx 2.5 y/o border collie mix (rescued from a shelter but per Embark, she is mixed with cattle dog and Aussie) who has severe separation anxiety (SA). Before us, it seems like she was on the streets for a while (potentially a bred farm/working dog that ran away or got lost?) as she was found on the street, severely underweight, and had several types of worms- all these health issues have resolved and she is now in good health.
We adopted her November 2020 (she was either 6 months to a year old, per vet estimates) and she has had SA since the very beginning. It started with excessive howling and barking the second we reached the door. We used to live in an apartment so we couldn’t let her bark/howl so we really bent over backwards making sure someone was always with her. With COVID and WFH, this wasn’t too difficult at the time. Even so, we have been working on her SA since we got her.
Things we have tried: crate and no crate, Karen Overall’s relaxation protocol, leaving TV on for sound, leaving treats, acknowledging her when we leave and also not acknowledging her when we leave, gradual desensitization starting with “door is a bore”, tons of mental and physical stimulation before we leave. Also personally I am a behavioral therapist (with kids) and we have hired two professional dog trainers. The first was completely out of her depth and the second has been fantastic- so supportive and empathetic; however, even with her individualized daily training plans on gradual desensitization, we haven’t gotten far. We have gotten up to 7 minutes twice and then she completely regressed back to 0 seconds. Out of the hundreds of dogs she has trained (she ONLY works in SA), she said our dog was Top 3 most difficult. We have also tried meds: currently she is on 30 mg of Prozac and .2 mg of Clonidine PRN. We temporarily increased to .4mg of Clonidine but it made her significantly more anxious so we stopped. She is about 38-40lbs
It is quite embarrassing to admit she hasn’t been left alone more than 10-15 minutes since we had her, and even then it is rough for her.
She is an amazing, intelligent, wonderful dog and we will never give up on her nor do we want her to be experiencing so much distress when we leave.
Sorry for the novel- I guess I am looking for support or any guidance around this issue. I posted in the separation anxiety subreddit before but it gets less traction. Also it’s a bummer to reflect back on a post I made a year ago and see no change.
Edited to add puppy tax of her asking if I am about to leave!
We adopted her November 2020 (she was either 6 months to a year old, per vet estimates) and she has had SA since the very beginning. It started with excessive howling and barking the second we reached the door. We used to live in an apartment so we couldn’t let her bark/howl so we really bent over backwards making sure someone was always with her. With COVID and WFH, this wasn’t too difficult at the time. Even so, we have been working on her SA since we got her.
Things we have tried: crate and no crate, Karen Overall’s relaxation protocol, leaving TV on for sound, leaving treats, acknowledging her when we leave and also not acknowledging her when we leave, gradual desensitization starting with “door is a bore”, tons of mental and physical stimulation before we leave. Also personally I am a behavioral therapist (with kids) and we have hired two professional dog trainers. The first was completely out of her depth and the second has been fantastic- so supportive and empathetic; however, even with her individualized daily training plans on gradual desensitization, we haven’t gotten far. We have gotten up to 7 minutes twice and then she completely regressed back to 0 seconds. Out of the hundreds of dogs she has trained (she ONLY works in SA), she said our dog was Top 3 most difficult. We have also tried meds: currently she is on 30 mg of Prozac and .2 mg of Clonidine PRN. We temporarily increased to .4mg of Clonidine but it made her significantly more anxious so we stopped. She is about 38-40lbs
It is quite embarrassing to admit she hasn’t been left alone more than 10-15 minutes since we had her, and even then it is rough for her.
She is an amazing, intelligent, wonderful dog and we will never give up on her nor do we want her to be experiencing so much distress when we leave.
Sorry for the novel- I guess I am looking for support or any guidance around this issue. I posted in the separation anxiety subreddit before but it gets less traction. Also it’s a bummer to reflect back on a post I made a year ago and see no change.
Edited to add puppy tax of her asking if I am about to leave!