So to start off my Mom has a Standard Poodle who’s around a year old. Ruby. She barks a lot. I thinks it’s a mixture of alert barking and just not having enough stimulation. My doesn’t walk, train, or provide much activity for her. She gets chews and we have lots of inedible bones and she gets to play with my sisters puppy everyday but that’s about it. We are all disabled and depressed and we can’t really do much. My mom is also super busy all the time even when she’s home. Ruby barks at noises she hears and things she sees out the living room windows (my mom refuses to close the blinds). Mom wants to get the “Bark Begone”. I’ve tried explaining that they are aversive and only work because they annoy or hurt the dog but my Entire Family either argues that they aren’t either of those things or that it’s fine to use aversives because “it’s unavoidable sometimes and they work” or that it doesn’t matter if they hurt the dog because it’s not doing permanent damage. I tried to compare it to blowing a shrill whistle in my moms ear every time she tried to show me something but it just resulted in a lecture on how aversives are unavoidable and don’t harm your dog or your relationship with your dog in the long run and that spanking was the only thing that house trained my sisters dog and the dog still loves them. (That does appear to be true.) Even my sister who has been on this subreddit and knows what I’m talking about wouldn’t back me up and even argued with me! I’m so upset I could cry and I’m worried about Ruby. I tried explaining theres scientific studies that support my position and they just say “there’s scientific studies to support every position” and implied they were biased. I tried to explain there’s more things mom can try and they just said I should do it myself. I’m gonna try. How do I get them to understand? We all live in the same house so the dog I’m getting soon will also be affected by this stupid device. I can’t move out. What can I do?
Edit: she also wants to use it to control Ruby’s jumping especially during greetings
Edit: she also wants to use it to control Ruby’s jumping especially during greetings