awretchlikeme
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Hi folks,
I just joined this group and I am SO happy to see that it exists! You all are so kind, supportive, and informed!
I'm adopting Toccio, a 3 year old Shit zhu - Bichon Frise, and he's arriving on Tuesday Morning. His owners are giving him up because his constant barking is disturbing the neighbours, and they've received written notices from their condo board. They were going to have him put down (!).
Fortunately, one of their friends said, give me a month- I'll find a home for Toccio! She posted about him on a neighbourhood facebook page, and so many people offered advice, or to help train him for free, anything to help them keep him in their family. But apparently training had been tried, and the couple still wanted to give him up.
I had just started doing a bit of dog-sitting, and dog boarding. I grew up with, and loved dogs, but the timing had not been right for me to own one as an adult. When I saw the post about Toccio, I hadn't had a request for my services for a couple of weeks, and I found myself playing and replaying the videos I had taken of the dogs in my care over and over again. My last doggie boarder was Rupert, a 3 yr old Golden Retriever who stayed with me for two weeks. He was, of course, a sweetie, who wanted lots of love and play, and then some more love and play. It was a good reminder for me about some of the demands and responsibilities of full- time dog care. (I'm still finding socks he stole all over my place! )
So, I contacted G., the owner's friend, she put me in contact with X., one of Toccio's humans, and we arranged a meeting. X had warned me that Toccio was aggressive, especially towards strangers. But I had already done a fair bit of homework, and knew that there was a difference between aggression and reactivity. And I'd also been bingeing Rocky Tanaka's Sitting with Dogs youtube channel for the past 5 months or so, and I found that I had learned a lot about dogs who *don't* relentlessly shower you with kisses and roll over on their tummies when they first meet you!
We met in a little parkette that was near their place and was known to Toccio. When I got about thirty feet away from them, Toccio started barking. So, I sat down on the grass, and encouraged X to do the same. Over the course of 2 hrs, I moved closer to Toccio, sitting sideways, not making eye contact, taking with X and encouraging her to just let him bark it out, and once he was calm, to reward him with a treat. I saw that he was very treat motivated, and very loving and affectionate towards X. It was also clear that he was very protective of her.
As I inched closer, I tried to find out as much as I could about Toccio:
I asked, has he been micro-chipped?
What's that? she replied.
Oh, but he's had his vaccinations?
Well, he got one.
Uhm, when was the last time he was at the vet.
Oh, I don't remember. But it was before COVID.
I tried to keep a blank face, to be non-reactive myself
, the more I learned.
How does he like to play? Does he have a favourite toy?
Oh, he doesn't have many toys.
And you were able to get some training for him?
Ya! They said that taking him for walks would help.
Later, talking with G., G informed me, "Oh ya. they just don't walk him. He rarely goes out."
I'm sharing these details not to invite judgment on the owners, but because they helped me begin to understand why Toccio was barking so much, and reactive towards strangers. I'd be barking too!
After 2 hrs, I was sitting about 3 feet away, and Toccio was calm, even lying down. He'd taken treats from me, which I thought was amazing! And his tail was wagging and his demeanor became very friendly in those moments, but he would sometimes growl with bared teeth a minute later. And he did nip me once. I took that as a sign that we needed to back-up. But we'd run out of treats, and it was time to go.
I was already in love, and knew that this dog needed a change in his circumstances at the very least. I'd previously contacted R., one of the people who responded on the facebook group, and asked her if she'd extend her generous offer of help to me, if I adopted Toccio. She said, Of course, immediately, and shared that she volunteers at a local humane society. She's already given me encouragement and great advice and insights. G. is so happy that Toccio will have a new, loving home. There's already this community of love forming around this dog. It's really lovely![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
I know this will be a challenge, and require lots of patience and time, and commitment to training. But I feel very hopeful that I can help Toccio overcome his fears and reactivity, especially with support. I'm working from home, part time, for the next four months, so I'll be able to give him a lot of attention and focus. I think my apartment is also really set up well for this dog's needs. I have a fenced in 25 x 25 deck, completely private, so I can help him become habituated with being outside, with all the squirrels, and bird noises, and the other noises of city life, without the triggers of other dogs and strangers. (We'll try that out later!)
But of course I'm also a bit nervous!
I'd love some advice about the first minutes, hours, and days.
Here's what I've planned so far. I'm going to close the doors to the two carpeted rooms that aren't dog-proofed yet. That still leaves lots of space for Toccio to roam, and also keep his distance from me until he feels secure. And if he has accidents, it's easily cleaned up! He uses a pee-pad.
He doesn't have a dog bed, no surprises there, so I'm going to create a couple of soft, cozy make-shift beds in different corners of my living room.
R. said that when she was caring for a dog that was nervous around strangers, and she had visitors, she would leave her door unlocked, and advise them just to come in, very low key. I think that would be a great way for Toccio to be able to enter my place, close to his owner, to help with the transition. Also, my entrance-way is very narrow, so if I greeted them at the door, his first experience of his new home would be a claustrophobic encounter with a stranger.
I learned that he loves chicken. So, I'm going to cook a roast chicken to be ready an hour or so before he arrives. I want my place to be totally suffused with that smell! I'm going to prepare little treat sized pieces of the chicken, and sit on the couch, which is against the wall furthest away from the entrance. I want his first impression of my place to be, "There's chicken here! And I love chicken!"
And then I just plan to let him explore, and approach me when he feels ready.
That's what I got so far.
I'd really, really welcome any feedback, suggestions. I know there's going to be a lot of stuff I haven't anticipated, cause I just haven't spent time with a dog in this condition before. When I was in my 20s, friends and I ran a summer arts program for elementary aged at- risk youth, and we decorated our space with balloons on the first day, to make it bright and welcoming. At the end of the day, after the last kid had gone, and we collapsed, exhausted from the tornado of hyperactivity that we'd just experienced, we looked at each other, and said, ok. no more balloons!!! I'm sure I'll make mistakes like that. So if you see any balloons in my plans, I'd be grateful if you pointed it out!
Sorry for such a long post!
Katherine
I just joined this group and I am SO happy to see that it exists! You all are so kind, supportive, and informed!
I'm adopting Toccio, a 3 year old Shit zhu - Bichon Frise, and he's arriving on Tuesday Morning. His owners are giving him up because his constant barking is disturbing the neighbours, and they've received written notices from their condo board. They were going to have him put down (!).
Fortunately, one of their friends said, give me a month- I'll find a home for Toccio! She posted about him on a neighbourhood facebook page, and so many people offered advice, or to help train him for free, anything to help them keep him in their family. But apparently training had been tried, and the couple still wanted to give him up.
I had just started doing a bit of dog-sitting, and dog boarding. I grew up with, and loved dogs, but the timing had not been right for me to own one as an adult. When I saw the post about Toccio, I hadn't had a request for my services for a couple of weeks, and I found myself playing and replaying the videos I had taken of the dogs in my care over and over again. My last doggie boarder was Rupert, a 3 yr old Golden Retriever who stayed with me for two weeks. He was, of course, a sweetie, who wanted lots of love and play, and then some more love and play. It was a good reminder for me about some of the demands and responsibilities of full- time dog care. (I'm still finding socks he stole all over my place! )
So, I contacted G., the owner's friend, she put me in contact with X., one of Toccio's humans, and we arranged a meeting. X had warned me that Toccio was aggressive, especially towards strangers. But I had already done a fair bit of homework, and knew that there was a difference between aggression and reactivity. And I'd also been bingeing Rocky Tanaka's Sitting with Dogs youtube channel for the past 5 months or so, and I found that I had learned a lot about dogs who *don't* relentlessly shower you with kisses and roll over on their tummies when they first meet you!
We met in a little parkette that was near their place and was known to Toccio. When I got about thirty feet away from them, Toccio started barking. So, I sat down on the grass, and encouraged X to do the same. Over the course of 2 hrs, I moved closer to Toccio, sitting sideways, not making eye contact, taking with X and encouraging her to just let him bark it out, and once he was calm, to reward him with a treat. I saw that he was very treat motivated, and very loving and affectionate towards X. It was also clear that he was very protective of her.
As I inched closer, I tried to find out as much as I could about Toccio:
I asked, has he been micro-chipped?
What's that? she replied.
Oh, but he's had his vaccinations?
Well, he got one.
Uhm, when was the last time he was at the vet.
Oh, I don't remember. But it was before COVID.
I tried to keep a blank face, to be non-reactive myself
How does he like to play? Does he have a favourite toy?
Oh, he doesn't have many toys.
And you were able to get some training for him?
Ya! They said that taking him for walks would help.
Later, talking with G., G informed me, "Oh ya. they just don't walk him. He rarely goes out."
I'm sharing these details not to invite judgment on the owners, but because they helped me begin to understand why Toccio was barking so much, and reactive towards strangers. I'd be barking too!
After 2 hrs, I was sitting about 3 feet away, and Toccio was calm, even lying down. He'd taken treats from me, which I thought was amazing! And his tail was wagging and his demeanor became very friendly in those moments, but he would sometimes growl with bared teeth a minute later. And he did nip me once. I took that as a sign that we needed to back-up. But we'd run out of treats, and it was time to go.
I was already in love, and knew that this dog needed a change in his circumstances at the very least. I'd previously contacted R., one of the people who responded on the facebook group, and asked her if she'd extend her generous offer of help to me, if I adopted Toccio. She said, Of course, immediately, and shared that she volunteers at a local humane society. She's already given me encouragement and great advice and insights. G. is so happy that Toccio will have a new, loving home. There's already this community of love forming around this dog. It's really lovely
I know this will be a challenge, and require lots of patience and time, and commitment to training. But I feel very hopeful that I can help Toccio overcome his fears and reactivity, especially with support. I'm working from home, part time, for the next four months, so I'll be able to give him a lot of attention and focus. I think my apartment is also really set up well for this dog's needs. I have a fenced in 25 x 25 deck, completely private, so I can help him become habituated with being outside, with all the squirrels, and bird noises, and the other noises of city life, without the triggers of other dogs and strangers. (We'll try that out later!)
But of course I'm also a bit nervous!
I'd love some advice about the first minutes, hours, and days.
Here's what I've planned so far. I'm going to close the doors to the two carpeted rooms that aren't dog-proofed yet. That still leaves lots of space for Toccio to roam, and also keep his distance from me until he feels secure. And if he has accidents, it's easily cleaned up! He uses a pee-pad.
He doesn't have a dog bed, no surprises there, so I'm going to create a couple of soft, cozy make-shift beds in different corners of my living room.
R. said that when she was caring for a dog that was nervous around strangers, and she had visitors, she would leave her door unlocked, and advise them just to come in, very low key. I think that would be a great way for Toccio to be able to enter my place, close to his owner, to help with the transition. Also, my entrance-way is very narrow, so if I greeted them at the door, his first experience of his new home would be a claustrophobic encounter with a stranger.
I learned that he loves chicken. So, I'm going to cook a roast chicken to be ready an hour or so before he arrives. I want my place to be totally suffused with that smell! I'm going to prepare little treat sized pieces of the chicken, and sit on the couch, which is against the wall furthest away from the entrance. I want his first impression of my place to be, "There's chicken here! And I love chicken!"
And then I just plan to let him explore, and approach me when he feels ready.
That's what I got so far.
I'd really, really welcome any feedback, suggestions. I know there's going to be a lot of stuff I haven't anticipated, cause I just haven't spent time with a dog in this condition before. When I was in my 20s, friends and I ran a summer arts program for elementary aged at- risk youth, and we decorated our space with balloons on the first day, to make it bright and welcoming. At the end of the day, after the last kid had gone, and we collapsed, exhausted from the tornado of hyperactivity that we'd just experienced, we looked at each other, and said, ok. no more balloons!!! I'm sure I'll make mistakes like that. So if you see any balloons in my plans, I'd be grateful if you pointed it out!
Sorry for such a long post!
Katherine